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Inertia
A female doctor, who has been my client for more than ten years, is still coming for the same issue. She has been dumped by her boyfriend, is not able to deal with this and remains emotional unstable. She is in an inertia- position of resistance and in this particular situation she has resistance to the acceptance of her situation. This client has never listened to me. In her relationship, she and her partner had misunderstandings and difficulties. When you wait too long for ‘the right person’ without result, you may wait your whole life. The point is that one needs to let go a partner, so that one can be happy with someone else. This is only possible if one allows this. He is simply not interested in a relationship anymore, and has the following underlying reasoning: “If she cannot take care of herself, she cannot give me the attention that I need either”.
One needs to be ‘emotionally mature’ to give attention to a partner. If not, the communication between two people will be unbalanced with a one- sided abundance so that the relationship is doomed to fail. How can one be emotional mature? Sorrow and misfortune do not always lead to maturity. People can go through very painful things without becoming mature. In Gods intended learning process is not being participated. Indeed, one can be down and depressed more often than others. The key is to help your partner to get him or her out of the gutter, whereby a strengthening process is created. When one is laying far behind in this strengthening, there will be no progress, which is crucial for a sustainable relationship.
This process of strengthening yourself begins with the recognition of problems in a better way. A better way of recognition begins with a full acceptation of yourself. Everyone has had misery in his or her life. A way to understand yourself, is by writing down all your frustrations on paper. After this, the best way to distance your problems is to cut the papers up or to burn them down. This detachment of one’s problems will lead to an innovation of yourself. When one does not do this, one will remain in a doom- sphere of depression.
Many people deal with depressions. The one is more honest about this than the other. How does one get out of a depression? By eating much chocolate? Or through an overdoses of alcohol? Forget it. The power of ones identity lays in the creation of a reciprocal coaching principle. Try to discuss as much things as possible with your partner, and when you both have a busy existence, talk to each other at night. Be each others psychiatrist and ask further to trace the underlying bottleneck emotion(s). When you are not able to do this, you can contact me. In dealing with this inertia, one can use the Chakra- liquid (10.2) for your 7 Chakra’s. By doing this, you will understand yourself and your partner better so that you can work yourself to a higher goal. The added value of synergy is reached, you will climb up the steps of the spiritual stair, so that you can be closer to each other..
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